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Crying Baby

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Why is your baby is wailing? Hungry? Sleepy? Hurting? Need a diaper change? Or is he Angry? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Or just plain sad?

After you’ve dealt with the obvious, and that bundle of joy is still crying, what are some things you can try?

  • Sometimes distraction is the only available tool. Often it works. But sometimes you can’t get their attention long enough to distract them.
  • A bear hug often works. If they were overstimulated or frustrated or sad or even in some tantrums, eliminating all the other stimuli and making them stop moving can end the crying.
  • Taking them away from the scene of the event, will give them the time and space to regroup.
  • Sometimes they just need to be by themselves and finish crying. Let them know when they call you, you will come, Stay where they can’t see you. Many children will self-soothe when they don’t have an audience.

Moms all have stories of taking the wrong action when their baby cried. My son was crying and it was lunch time, so I put him in his highchair. I KNEW he was hungry. I fixed his lunch. I noticed he had stopped crying. It was then I discovered he had laid his head on the highchair tray and had fallen sound asleep. I stood there and cried because I thought, “Only a horrible mother doesn’t know her baby is sleepy and thinks he is hungry.”

Just know that you are NOT the worst parent in the world when your baby cries and you cannot figure out why. It happens to all of us sometimes. Try to learn what signs your baby gives you for different needs and remember what worked last time. Try that first. If it doesn’t work try something else. That’s what good moms do!

Reading Baby’s Face

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Since Baby cannot talk, it can be very hard to figure out what they need or want.

For a little help in reading your baby’s face, take a look at these babies and see if you guess right about what they are trying to say.

See whether their eyebrows are raised or lowered or pinched together. Is their nose wrinkled or not? Is their mouth open or the corners turned down?

Have some fun and maybe learn a little bit more about what your baby is trying to tell you.

Baby Emotions

Baby Sleep

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sleeping-babyBaby sleeping at night means everyone in the family sleeps better. Having a baby that doesn’t sleep well calls for action. Our grandson cried non-stop every time he was laid down for months. At night one adult swaddled him, walked him, rocked him, and prayed for him to sleep. Whenever he nodded off, he was gently laid in his car seat (the only place he sometimes slept). Within a short while he was crying again and the whole process began again. He was finally diagnosed with GER and medication was prescribed and the whole family began to get sleep at night.

Most babies don’t have such a severe problem with lying down and sleeping. Here are some ways to help your baby be able to sleep well at night. Starting early might help you avoid some bad habits that will make your child’s falling asleep a chore every night for years.

  • Have a regular bedtime. Children thrive on routine. Going to bed at the same time every night helps your baby begin to get sleepy at that time each evening. (Of course it can’t be the same every night, but make it as often as possible.)
  • Wind down time. Right before nap time and bedtime, take a few minutes to snuggle and begin to calm down. At nighttime, you may want to have a longer bedtime routine including a soothing bath, read a book or sing a song, pray together, or any other ritual you don’t mind continuing for years.
  • Comfort. Make sure he is fed and burped, has on a clean diaper. Swaddling helps young babies feel more secure. Appropriate sleepwear for your climate and room temperature is also a must.
  • Sleep associations. Dim light, white noise, a certain scent, or a comfort item can signal it is time to sleep for your little one. Even when you need to give a night feeding, be consistent with keeping the lights dim, little noise, and no play during these feedings, your baby should learn to fall back to sleep quickly and not get his days and nights mixed up.
  • Keep naps consistent. When babies are overly tired, they are much harder to get to sleep. As much as possible, make sure they have a regular nap time.
  • Lay baby down before she is totally asleep. When she falls asleep in your arms, she expects to wake up that way. When she stirs and you are not holding her, she is jerked wide awake and alarmed. Then you must hold her again for her to calm down and get back to sleep. But, if she falls asleep in her crib with very dim light and quiet, she will learn to self-soothe to sleep. When she stirs awake later, everything is as it was when she fell asleep, and she self-soothes back to sleep. Of course if she is hungry or wet, she’ll let you know she needs your help.
  • Babies don’t sleep through the night for the first few months. Most babies need night feedings until they are at least 12 pounds or 5.5 kg. By about 3 months, babies are fairly regular about when they eat and sleep. If you have practiced these routines, your baby should be well on the way to sleeping through the night.

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