John Gottman identified 13 things all couples do who have an amazing sex life. This was from a study of more than 3,000 couples over 40 years.

Let’s start with The Disasters:

• They spend very little time together during a typical week
• They become job-centered (him) and child-centered (her)
• They talk mostly about their huge to-do lists
• They seem to make everything else a priority other than their relationship
• They drift apart and lead parallel lives
• They are unintentional about turning toward one another

The Masters:

• They say “I love you” every day and mean it
• They kiss one another passionately for no reason
• They give surprise romantic gifts
• They know what turns their partners on and off erotically
• They are physically affectionate, even in public
• They keep playing and having fun together
• They cuddle
• The make sex a priority, not the last item of a long to-do list
• They stay good friends
• They can talk comfortably about their sex life
• They have weekly dates
• They take romantic vacations
• They are mindful about turning towards

Now you cannot do it all right away. This is a blueprint outlining the best practices and the goal for your relationship. Take a step today in the right direction. Keep trying and become Masters not Disasters.

See:  The Sex Life of Masters and Disasters – the results of John Gottmans’ research of those with amazing sex lives.