Here we are in February, the month we think about love and romance.
Some of you are just recovering from delivery. Love making may be the last thing on your mind, but you wouldn’t mind having a romantic date. It doesn’t have to be expensive to celebrate your love. In fact, if money is tight, extravagant gifts cause more worry than joy.
Why not take some time to think about a way you and your spouse can reconnect in a romantic way? You may not be able to leave the house, but you can let your mate know how very important they are to you and what joy they bring you.
Parenting babies or toddlers is full of distractions. These can squeeze romance right out of us. Unsettled disagreements cause tensions to rise. Disappointment over what our mate fails to do chills romance. When we have spent the whole day putting out fires it can be hard to spark romance. Many times though, if one of you begins wooing, the other will find there really is a little left to share. If not, make a date. Anticipation is a great aphrodisiac.
Some things to think about that will make romance more possible:
- Forgive and not hold grudges. Take time to ask forgiveness or to talk about your grievances before you sleep. You’ll both sleep better.
- Don’t let unrealistic expectations spoil your joy. Talk about your limitations and your expectations. Many are reasonable if we only take time to listen.
- Keep up your physical appearance. Of course having a baby changes your shape. But we can comb our hair, put on comfortable, but pleasant clothes, and smile.
- Stay creative in ways to romance your spouse!
- Start each day with a kiss
- Be polite
- Give back rubs
- Do what they want before they ask
- Hold hands more often
- Watch sunsets together
- Say “I love you” frequently
- Wink at them
Don’t bring the Facebook world into your relationship. Make your celebration yours and yours alone. You may think that having hundreds of friends ‘like’ your romantic post will thrill your spouse. But personal, caring, thoughtful words from you will go straight to their heart.
If you have the time, money, and way to do something bigger, by all means enjoy yourselves without guilt. But if you don’t, enjoy what you can have and let each other know how much you love them.
Here’s to creating a memory and starting a ritual of connection that you’ll never forget.