What means the most to your kids? Maybe you haven’t taken time to notice. Or maybe you’ve gotten too busy to do some of those things lately.
Let’s think about things we can easily incorporate in our day, that will have long-term meaning to our kids.
- Do you have a special way to wake your children in the morning? Maybe it’s a silly song or tickle. Maybe your little one is slow coming to in the morning. A few minutes of snuggling with her may ease her into the day better than a loud noise. It doesn’t have to be the same way for all of your children.
- Do you have a signal, instead of words, for reminders of things they already know they should do? This lessens their embarrassment about being reminded often. Our son had learning differences. Homework was very time consuming for him. Just pointing back at his paper when he seemed to be day dreaming worked so much better than constantly saying, “Get back to work!” It also quieted and calmed the atmosphere of the homework table.
- Join in their play for a little while. They don’t expect it, but they are delighted when you do. Join in their game, follow their made-up rules to make the most of this time.
- Make their after-school snack time a “tea party.” You will be amazed at what you can learn about their day and the way they are thinking when you sit down and enjoy a “cuppa” with them.
- Read a book together. Most kids really love to hear a story out loud. It has the advantage of calming down for a few minutes of quiet.
- Linger over bath time. It’s easy to want to rush through it and get them into bed. Instead, make it a calming, refreshing time.
- When your kids are old enough, card games and board games can be a weekly tradition that they will remember their whole lives.
- Have special good night and good bye routines. These are times of connection. Make them your own and special.
I’m sure you have your own rituals of connection with your children. Keep them up and let your kids know you remember and enjoy them too.
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